Dealing with Interfering Parents

Parents are meant to look after you and keep you safe. Their job is also to make sure that you grow up to be smart enough to make good decisions for yourself and your life. If they do their job well, then they can safely release you into the world to live your life the way you see fit. This includes choosing the best partners. When your parents let you go, they should trust you to do what’s best for you. However, for many parents, that’s just impossible to do.

These are the parents that you’re literally terrified to take home your latest guy to meet. They tend to always do something that will either embarrass you to death or scare the guy off. Sometimes they manage to do both.

Your father may want to fire questions at your guy about his past, present and what he plans to do in the future. Worse yet, he may actually ask that horrible question of what this guy’s intentions are where you’re concerned. This is always the one that can make you want to crawl into the woodwork.

Your mother may decide that no one is good enough for you nor will there ever be anyone that is. This means that she’s most likely going to find many ways to keep you near her and away from men. Sadly, these are the mothers whose daughters don’t get a chance to live their own lives until the mothers have crossed over into the great beyond. These are unhealthy relationships and certainly don’t help the daughters to have the normal lives they’re meant to have.

Whether or not your parents act like this or worse, there are some ways that you can deal with the situation other than just living on the other side of the world from them and pretending that you’re not in a relationship of any kind. You need to prepare your guy for his first meeting with your parents. This may or may not be simple to do depending on his personality. If he’s understanding, you’ll be able to explain all about your parents to him and he’ll simply follow your lead. If he’s a bit of a wimp, he’ll probably run away as soon as you’ve explained what your parents are like. In that case, it is better that you know now.

Next, talk to your parents. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you won’t tolerate them treating your new guy any way that’s disrespectful. Give them a list of what they may and may not ask him. Warn them that if they do anything to deliberately embarrass you that it will be the last time they ever get to meet another one of your boyfriends. Then, remind them that they have raised you to have good judgment and that they need to trust that you’re using it when selecting the men you date.

When you’ve explained everything to them, that gives them the chance to do the right thing and make you proud by welcoming your new guy into their home. Otherwise, they’re showing you that you have no option but to keep them away from the men in your life.

Disadvantages of speed dating

Looking for the right partner can be an incredibly tricky process. There are many people who think that there is one perfect person for all of us in the world – so if you never meet that person, or you meet them and it goes wrong, you have no hope. This is plainly wrong, though, because the world simply is not that ordered. It still does not stop a lot of people from losing hope, and this is why even targeted dating services can be more hindrance than help in many ways. Thinking about it realistically, how certain can you be that attending a speed dating event will bring you into contact with someone you will love, and who loves you?

Attending a speed dating event can bring you into contact with a wide range of people, some of whom you may get along with. However, looking at it objectively, there is no reason why the ideal person for you, or one of them, will be among a field that can be as small as five people. Coming back from a speed dating event not having met anyone you would want to see again – or finding that the one or more that you had a good feeling about did not reciprocate that feeling – can be pretty upsetting.

In the end, is a period of time that can be as little as three minutes long really enough time to get a feel for what someone is really like? The event can fall on a day when you simply were not at your best, so if it doesn’t happen for you, you should not lose faith in yourself.

Dating With Disabilities

Dating as a disabled person can be difficult on variety of counts. There are things that are simply different in the dating process than when you had full use of your body.

The Disadvantage

You can physically do less. This is perhaps the greatest handicap that comes with being disabled. A disabled person is usually someone who is given to more reflection and has a deeper level of thinking. So the intellectual aspect is by no means affected by most injuries.

However, the reduction in physical ability does put a limit on where you can go and what you can do on dates. Most of the more challenging activities such as hiking and whitewater rafting are probably out of the question. Even common activities like swimming can become a bit more complex.

The Advantage

You will be challenged. Most people do not reach their full potential because they do not feel the need to stretch and become somebody. In contrast, many people who are rich today were dirt poor when they were younger. The circumstances pushed them to work harder and become better than what their situation would’ve predicted.

If you are the type of person who hankers for achievement, the type that is mentally tough, then this is what will being disabled will do to you. And you will actually become a better person for it.

What You Should Do

Take your “disadvantage” and turn it into an advantage. Answer the challenge and get ready to live a fuller, more fulfilling life. Don’t ever listen to people who say that you are less of a person because of your handicap. In fact, they are the ones that are handicapped, with that sort of thinking.

Develop a wonderful personality. Compensate by developing the sunniest, most loving personality that you can. This doesn’t mean that you should throw yourself at others; it just means that you should be able to attract others through your attitude and disposition.

Only date people who have the utmost respect for you. One of the advantages of being disabled is you will tend to attract only the nicest people. Shallow people tend to be turned off by disability; you should be thankful for this. This means the people you attract will tend to be those who see past any physical faults and into the inner beauty that you have.

A Few Closing Remarks

Dating is a bit more complicated when you are disabled, but it doesn’t make it any less fun. After all, if you find the right person, the activity involved might not even be important. You can be at home reading some books and have tons of fun. Just remember: you can enjoy your life as much, if not more, than most people. Because of what you don’t have, you have learned to appreciate what you do have. That means that dating just might be a bit more fun for you than most others.

Dating Tip For Lesbians Who Are Shy

It’s hard enough maintaining a day-to-day life as a lesbian, but when you’re trying to meet someone for a romantic relationship, it can be even more difficult when you’re also shy. Heterosexual men also have this problem when trying to meet women, but it seems to somehow be worse when you’re a lesbian. For one thing, you don’t always know whether or not another woman is gay unless you meet her under circumstances where there is no doubt. These can be such places as gay/lesbian bars, through friends, or other lesbian activities.

Being in these situations will give you an edge, but it won’t help you much if you can’t get past your shyness. Another term for this type of shyness is approach anxiety. This refers to the debilitating shyness that can take you over when you see an attractive woman that you really want to talk to but simply cannot bring yourself to approach her. This is what you must work to get past because once you do, there are so many new doors that will open themselves to you in the game of meeting new women to date.

First, you’ve got to start doing an exercise that will guide you along the way to getting to the point where you can easily approach women whether you know them or not. The first way to do this is by saying hello to strangers. Do this all the time to everyone wherever you are. Say hello whether they look at you or not and even if you don’t know if they’ll respond back. It doesn’t matter. You’re taking the lead in speaking to someone you don’t know.  It’s excellent practice.

Stop waiting for other people you know to come up to you and say hello. You make the first move and walk up to THEM. Go out of your way to do this. Don’t stop and think about whether to do it or not. Just get up and go say hello. Again, this is great practice for coming out of your shell.

Something else you can do is to linger and talk to people that you usually just say hi to. Make small talk with them for a few minutes. There have to be people in your life that you’ve known for years, and yet, you’ve never had a real conversation with. These are the people you can practice with. Start a conversation with them and participate equally in it.

Now, take all that you’ve learned through these little exercises and go to your favorite lesbian bar or club. Go in and order yourself a drink to enjoy while you visually scope out the room. This time will be different because when you spot that attractive woman you would really like to get to know better, you won’t be hiding in the corner feeling sad because you know you’ll never get the chance. This time, you’re going to go up to her, introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. This will be the beginning of the end of you going home alone.

Dating Pitfalls – Coming on too Strong

There is little doubt that a new relationship can put a spring in your step. Just knowing that someone considers you to be worth spending time with, and that they are someone you would be happy with, makes a big difference. There are also drawbacks to this feeling. It is all to easy to fall quickly and deeply for someone, and it is not uncommon for people’s work to be affected because they spend any time that they have apart from their new love thinking about them. At its worst, it can lead to paranoia about the relationship ending suddenly.

Although it is completely normal to become smitten with a new boyfriend or girlfriend, it is important to proceed with caution. The temptation may be to call them a few times a day, give them gifts whenever you see them and write to them when you are neither with them or talking to them – love can easily be that powerful. However, it is important to be conscious that appearing too keen can spook someone. They may feel that they have to live up to an impossible impression, or that you want something more than they do – or just that you are getting too involved too quickly.

If you have to make a conscious effort to find other things to do with your time, then that is what you must do. Placing undue pressure on a relationship does no good – it needs time and space to grow healthily. Though this may be difficult to keep to, you need to give yourself the best chance of making things work.